Couples Therapy in Denver & Greenwood Village

You may love each other deeply — and still feel stuck

Couples rarely come to therapy because they don't care about each other. More often, they care deeply and simply don't know how to get out of the pattern they're caught in.

• “We keep having the same argument over and over.”
• “One of us reaches for connection while the other shuts down.”
• “We feel more like roommates than partners.”
• “We can't talk about difficult things without everything escalating.”
• “We feel lonely even when we're together.”
• “We've lost the closeness, affection, or intimacy we used to have.”
• “We understand the problem — but can't seem to change the pattern.”
• “We're wondering whether our relationship can actually get better.”
• “We're considering separation and don't know what comes next.”
• “We love each other and want to strengthen our relationship before things get worse.”

If any of this sounds familiar, you're not alone — and your relationship isn't necessarily broken.

Real couples. Real change.

You don't have to take my word for it. Here's what couples I've worked with have experienced.

It's not about who's right. It's about the cycle you're caught in.

When couples are hurting, it's easy to see the other person as the problem.

And the more the pattern repeats, the more alone both people can feel.

Underneath the arguments — whether about communication, parenting, intimacy, or daily stress — are deeper emotional needs: to feel seen, valued, and important to each other.

The problem isn't that either of you is broken. The problem is the cycle you've become trapped in.

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples slow this cycle down, understand what is happening underneath the conflict, and begin responding to one another in new ways.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples

EFT is an attachment-based, research-backed approach that helps couples understand the emotional patterns underneath their conflict. Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Les Greenberg, it's grounded in attachment science — the understanding that we are wired for connection, closeness, and emotional safety in our relationships.

Instead of simply teaching communication techniques, we look at what happens between you when you feel hurt, rejected, criticized, ignored, or afraid of losing connection.

Together, we slow those moments down and begin creating new ways of reaching for and responding to each other.

In my work with couples, EFT is not just a model — it's how I help partners move out of disconnection and back into feeling emotionally safe, understood, and connected. If you'd like a fuller explanation, I've written a plain-language guide to Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.

What couples therapy with me is actually like

Coming to couples therapy can feel vulnerable — especially when you've been hurting for a while.

You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what to say. You don't need to agree about what's wrong. And you don't need to know how to fix your relationship before you walk through the door.

My role isn't to decide who's right or take sides. My role is to help both of you feel heard, understand the cycle you're caught in, and create a space where you can begin hearing each other differently.

1. 01

   Understand the cycle

   We slow things down and identify the pattern that keeps pulling you apart.

2. 02

   Go beneath the conflict

   We explore the emotions, fears, needs, and longings underneath the reactions.

3. 03

   Create new ways of connecting

   You begin practicing ways of reaching for and responding to one another that create more safety, understanding, and connection.

Couples come to therapy for many different reasons

As a couples therapist in Greenwood Village, I often work with:

• Couples who keep having the same fight
• Couples who feel emotionally disconnected
• Couples who feel more like roommates than partners
• Couples struggling with communication
• Couples experiencing conflict around parenting or life stress
• Couples who have lost emotional or physical intimacy
• Couples recovering from hurt or betrayal
• Couples considering separation
• Couples who look happy from the outside but feel disconnected privately
• Couples who simply want to strengthen an already-good relationship

If you're married and looking specifically for marriage counseling, you can read more about my marriage counseling work. I also offer pre-marital counseling and affair recovery counseling.

Listening beneath the words

A big part of this process is learning how to 'listen beneath the words' — to hear not just what your partner is saying, but what they're feeling underneath.

As that understanding grows, something begins to shift. Partners often become more open, more responsive, and more compassionate — not because they're trying harder, but because they feel safer. When we feel safe with the person we love, we don't just communicate better — we truly connect.

What begins to change

Over time, many couples begin to notice:

• They're not having the same fights anymore
• They feel more understood instead of misunderstood
• They can talk about hard things without it escalating
• They feel emotionally closer and more connected
• They feel like they're on the same team again

Instead of feeling stuck, things begin to feel possible again.

Couples therapy in Greenwood Village or online

In person in Greenwood Village

My office is at 5200 DTC Parkway, Suite 290, in Greenwood Village (the Denver Tech Center). It's an easy drive for couples from Denver, Centennial, Englewood, Littleton, Aurora, and Lone Tree. Some couples find it helpful to have a dedicated space away from home, where the conversation can feel different from the ones you have at the kitchen table.

Online throughout Colorado and New Jersey

If coming into the office isn't practical, I also offer secure online couples therapy for couples anywhere in Colorado, as well as in New Jersey. Many couples find that online sessions fit more easily into busy work and family schedules — and the work can be just as meaningful. You can read more about how online couples therapy in Colorado works.

Couples sessions are $210 for 50 minutes and $315 for 75 minutes. You can find more on rates and insurance.

Do we have to be in crisis for couples therapy to help?

No. You don't have to wait until your relationship is falling apart to ask for help.

Couples therapy can be helpful when you're stuck in recurring conflict, feeling disconnected, struggling with intimacy, navigating a major transition, or simply wanting to feel closer and more secure together.

What if one partner is more ready than the other?

That's very common. Partners don't always arrive with the same level of hope or readiness, and that's okay — it doesn't mean therapy can't be useful. A free consultation is a low-pressure way to talk through where each of you is and whether working together feels like a good fit. If you're weighing whether to stay together, you can also read about couples therapy before separation or divorce.

Frequently asked questions